comment by Anonymous, 13/1072007
Good evening. I do not know why I am writing in request for advice ... maybe because my own parents, exasperated, I was motivated to do so ... which is not a positive signal in any way. for two years now suffer from power problems, now for a year and a half to finding a balance, which, if found, I can not keep ... food is a daily problem, inconstant, stressful, dragging with them the body and mind.
I would not turn to a psychologist, I am not willing to talk about the causes that have moved and that, in spite of the time, continue to move my outbursts. at least not yet. I would like some tips to get out. because it is a spiral that goes lower and lower. and why every time I plan to defeat me alone, then I find myself in the same situation as before, if not worse, and becoming aware of my pond at the bottom, I'm afraid to leave amdare over, for fear of not know myself to stop. plus what today.
Seeking the help of an expert, if it can be called. an expert, if indeed this concept is possible. I would like to make it alone, but the pulses are too weak. depresses me aware of suffering of my secrets, I have already achieved a balance in order to take advantage of opportunities without prevarication, but I'm not able. and this scares me.
I conceal behind an anonymous dry, with a mask on his face that still do not really know you want to remove permanently. Thank you. and I apologize for the outburst.
reply to comment by Anonymous
Dear writer, first we must forgive for the delay in answer to his letter. We have moved our center in a new place and we had to commit a lot of energy.
from the end of his letter: its only a rash? When you speak or write to someone objective can be to "download" a thought or emotion, but there may also be the desire to share difficult thoughts and emotions with others who can listen and try to understand.
Certainly his letter expresses what we psychologists call an ambivalence: she would like to ask for help, but at the same time, he considers it a sign of weakness, need someone to advise on what to done, but plan to do alone, to find a balance on his own, hints at the causes that could make sense of its difficulties but is unwilling to talk about it more explicitly, it comes out with his writing problem, but behind a mask holds it in a condition of anonymity.
seems to me that in this existential uncertainty there is a strength and a weakness.
The strength is the effort you made for a year and a half, and perhaps more, to commit themselves to solve their problems, giving up to make a comfortable delegating to others. And yet, she shows that there is a part of her strong and overwhelming - Perhaps, I might add, because anonymous and unknown to herself - she can not manage.
This is where the ball point of weakness after having tried, retried and was verified a failure of its strategies "therapeutic" she insists in thinking that has to do everything alone. He does not believe that the help of a competent partner could help you? I understand that you consider a sign of weakness following the advice of parents to turn to someone and I want to reassure us we are not psychologists, parents, even if we share with them the status of adult and willingness to take care of others. We are, as you write, experts say people who have many years working with the boys not to cure them but to help maintain and stabilize a flight, a fascinating but difficult, from adolescence to adulthood.
What seems to me the most insidious enemy for she is not so much the food problem as what she calls stagnation. I would call a state of papers and closing in on itself that prevents it from living life in all its manifestations (including the pleasure of eating). If you live in Rome and will visit us will find people interested in discussing with her what to do. But if people in other places, we give you the address of experts working in other Italian cities.
Kind regards and best wishes, Emilio Masina
